god and the loss of a child

I find joy in remembering him as the inquisitive little boy who made people laugh. We lost our first son to SIDS. The only reason I still live is because of my youngest daughter and 2 grandsons. I can relate I lost 2 grandchildren 3 months apart. I to am also A Member of A Club no one wants to join.I lost my Child 10 Years ago She was 16.It pierced my Soul she was the only Person in my Life that i knew for a fact loved me unconditionally no matter what. We all have dead people. My tears flow everyday with regrets of what if. We lost our oldest son, Justin on 5/1/17. One yr we went bowling for him. When he got upstairs he put a bullet in his brain. Je sais que chaque larmes qui tombent pour un enfant fait battre le coeur dun autre. Its only been three months yet it feels like it was just last week. I was so moved in a profound, deep and intense way, with tears and joy too. I am lost. If anyone is interested am looking for a grieving pen pal to chat with. The loss was so unexpected. 2 of my dads sisters lost their children in their 30s. I just lost my 22 year old son Zach, 3 months ago. No more pain, no more meds or treatments, no more surgeries. And, for all grieving parents, my heart goes out to all of you. I know. He is very much alive to me. I am a sign watcher and the day we laid Kelly to rest there were three vivid rainbows. My seemingly healthy son of 14 years was suddenly thrown into a world nothing couldve prepared any of us for. The stories here have broken my heart, shown me my own pain, reminded me of my loss and reminded me that love is forever. My two year old son went to be with the Lord five years ago. How can you live after losing a child? But I know most children go to God in heaven. He was 17, at the prime of his life. Thank you for saying how we feel. When does the grief end? My daughter would have been 30 years old on November 1, 2017. God. Matthew 18:1-4 I feel really guilty if it was the medicine that brought him to that point or wish I could have prevented it some way. I have been amazed to find out how many peoples lives have been touched by the disease. My brother died in Vietnam in October 1969 at age 21. Doing, sometimes, only what was in front of me to do. This fits for dads too. They start movements, change laws, spearhead crusades of tireless activism. Grandson is a blessing. Those are 24 hours I look forward to from one month to the next. The time will pass, days and years, Hold onto those precious boys of yours. We tried for years to reach out to him but he didnt want our help. The pain is agonizing and since her death wasnt noble, I feel deeply that others dont offer the same consideration to my deep, unsoliced grief. For the Lord will not cast off forever, but, though he cause grief, he will have compassion according to the abundance of his steadfast love; for he does not afflict from his heart or grieve the children of men. Empty spaces that should be full, everywhere we go. But there is another way that God has experienced the death of a child. I lost my son in a tragic way, unexpected. I dont think I would care to continue to live. YOU HAVE TO HOLD ON TIGHTLY TO GOD. But for some reason, I feel so strongly that there is something wrong. God? Im so sorry for your loss and for the family your son left behind. Every day, for nearly 6 years, I climbed one step at a time out of the dark pit of loss with Jesus pulling me up and with the son God gave me as my reasons to go on. Not for myself and not only for my children, but because it is what he would want me to do. Thank you to all of the people that are in the same group as I am. I will grieve for this very lifetime until I meet with her again. I have 3 other sons and understand how it feels to lose even one son. Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of mercies and God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our affliction, so that we may be able to comfort those who are in any affliction, with the comfort with which we ourselves are comforted by God. One often misunderstood by many. But I can say, that if you choose to find away to pick yourself up and walk through the grief, one day it will be worth it. I feel your loss Nasir, my condolences. Killed by nephew at my parents home in accidental shooting. David's Loss and Repentance 15 After Nathan had gone home, the LORD struck the child that Uriah's wife had borne to David, and he became ill. 16 David pleaded with God for the boy. I get up and don my cloak of normal every day, some days I am successful and others, not so much. I wish I could find a way to at least live again. So no I will never ever get over losing my Sean, sorry for your loss, thank god you are able to love his children and send time with them, this is your blessing time is funny someday will be ok and sum will suck and god willing you will look at your grandchildren and smile because you will remember the special times with their dad ..hang in there sending loving thought to you and your family. I have set up a foundation in my daughters name and give out small grants to class rooms when they ask and this year am starting to give out scholarships.. Hi, We lost our son, aged 33, 13 years ago. But as for you, continue in what you have learned and have firmly believed, knowing from whom you learned it and how from childhood you have been acquainted with the sacred writings, which are able to make you wise for salvation through faith in Christ Jesus. Because I grieve I also know a joy like no other. I now go to his resting place and have talks with him that dont end in arguments. Remember the devil never stops trying to steal our faith. Wise and incredibly insightful beyond her years, an old soul, my baby, my LIFE asked me to set her free, and I did! After the numbness of death lessens, you realize that God did not take away your child, circumstances did. I would always keep her in my arms. I also can not handle this heartache of losing my son. God bless everyone who is has borne this loss and still gets out of bed each morning to greet the day, being thankful and living life. A blockage in his intestine that was never diagnosed because he didnt show any symptoms. 2 Samuel 12:16-23English Standard Version. I never thought that I would still be here, and have two on my sons and my grandchildren and have them go before me. To Anyone Who Has Lost a Child | Desiring God Children Of God: Lost And Found - amazon.com Blessed be God for ever. my son, sean, also 24 when he passed 7 years ago, is forever missed, forever loved, and forever grieved for. He left 2 sisters who loved him so dearly. She was our third child. So know that my prayers are with you and your family. I can relate to this. I too have struggled with feeling like I had murdered my beautiful daughter though I know we could not save her. She could never talk, but could sign. Trust in God ans know that Jesus is coming back for us. I lost my daughter 26 yrs ago( she would be 33 now), and NEVER gets better, never forget and always want to just reach out and touch her but not there. I feel your pain. Would it have made any difference in what he did that day?. I am in your same spot. I do agree so much with your last point, I take nothing for granted. That gives me comfort as he felt very alone and lonely the years before his death. I so miss him and know we had and still have a special bond. In 2007 my youngest son took his own life a week before his 19 birthday. And as we gathered to say good-bye to their child, my heart was still broken and rightfully so, there were no words that I could ever say to ease their pain. Still making it one day at a time. jesus calms our broken hearts, he really does. The end. Gods words will give you comfort if you ask. Well said. We lost our only son, Michael, 14 years ago on 12/13/02 in a vehicle accident. Prayer is what keeps me going. Butterflies Dragonflies Owls Ladybugs dovesnumbers Songs on the radio Sayings your child might have used will just be there, sometimes, just as youre thinking about your angel. The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit. My sweet son died in my arms June 22, 2009. Here it is another holiday season with my 70th birthday thrown in. i also believe in jesus christ and i am praying for peace,acceptance,healing. My wonderful son malcolm passed away at 25 due to a health condition( seizure). Very few knew the fight he waged with severe bi-polar depression, daily migraines and 48hr sleepless cycles. I thought I would share my story to. I am sad but I am also joyful. We carry them, cocooned in the safety of our hearts, for ever. I will understand one day why he left and peace will come than. It was the first time we had ventured outside the house and it was almost as if we were led there. I think of her so often, and I speak of her as though she were still here with us. I think a lot about the present and the future as if he where still here. Everyday has its difficult moments. I realized lately, I have no fear. Thank you for sharing those words of wisdom. I remember how hard the first year was for me and my family. I cant change the past and I have stopped questioning why. This past thanksgiving..instead of typical family dinner..my husband and I went to the beach camping. thank you angela, grieving gloria. Drunk driver. He was 52. thank you and thank you all again for your stories,strength and hope, Im so sorry but Im so glad to see a dad on here. God Bless! I did not get to raise her and I know its not the same as your stories because I didnt get to raise her. My son, age 14, took his life June 13, 1996. We hold on to that love deep in our heart She is gone. Romans 6:23 says the wages sins pay is death so when you die ( no matter how) you are washed of your sins. He loved hugs..I miss my baby. She wants her son here. Ive been to therapist as well as a psychiatrist..I lost my childs mother..my home..my mind. My heart is with you all. life sucks without him. I lost my dad, mom and son within a six year period. Life is never taken for granted. 1. Then we who are alive, who are left, will be caught up together with them in the clouds to meet the Lord in the air, and so we will always be with the Lord. But Hide allot and Im not sure my daughter got the chance to grieve her brothers death. It was our local sheriff and our minister. I have lost both -children AND my husband of 47 years. I have a blind granddaughter who was born with retina blastoma cancer, as were two of her 3 children. Beautifully written! I just found this sight this evening and read your post. How he proved to many that there are good people in this world just by being his loving self. Allow yourself to grieve and be kind to yourself in that and allow that kindness to overflow on your family. I had three boys, I now have one .Michael my oldest died at 19 years old in 1995. Just cant imagine ever truly feeling that again. He was planning to return to Georgia in April. E Love is the most powerful force on earth, and the love between a bereaved parent and his/her child is a lifeforce to behold. Rebecca found her strength through her faith. But I thank God for them! The book One Thousand Gifts by Ann Voskamp was very helpful. How to Explain Death to a Child Biblically - Little Shoots, Deep Roots When he died a great but precious weight was lifted from our shoulders. She cut me off completely, and almost completely cut off our children she has never visited them and wont call them, and although they are allowed to call or visit her, they rarely do. could not imagine having lost both my children. We do some of the things Steven loved or would do. You may experience intense anger, guilt, denial, sorrow, and fear, all of which are normal for a bereaved parent. The Lord is good, a stronghold in the day of trouble; he knows those who take refuge in him. Our journey is just beginning. I can attest to every word written here. I remember the joy that my sons brought into my life and know that everything happens for a reason. Sometimes finding that reason is a challenge, but I hope some day to know why I lost my sons at such an early age. I see things that she would have loved or that would have made her smile and I want to tell her about them. Right now my soul aches so bad. I also think grief is much different for a dad, and we are supposed to be strong. After the death of her son, Angela founded A Bed For My Heart in 2013, and has given people around the world a compassionate and supportive community to express their grief and honor their children. My life will never be the same without him. Its not normal to lose child. Fathers shall not be put to death because of their children, nor shall children be put to death because of their fathers. It still hurts, people dont understand that even though they are gone they are still very much a part of our lives. I will speak. If they ask how he died..i say he is gone..it doesnt matter how..he is gone. Thank you for sharing and listening. God bless. AVina. Turn your eyes upon jesus, there is no other way of survival. I pray Psalm 143:8 Let the morning bring me word of your unfailing love, for I have put my trust in you. And the dead in Christ will rise first. There is nothing here on this earth for me now. I wish it were that easy to bring him back, but it isnt. I have not reached a place of being able to find joy in much of anything except my other children and even that is forced. Parents of Murdered Children may be of help to you. So sorry that we and many others are in this club. He made me who I am in perfect brokenness. thanks for listening to me and my story. We have remained married for 40 years. And then people say we are over-protective of our only living child, who is married now for just over 3 years and has two children. My sons name was also Chrishe died at age 26..on memorial day 2002. The doctor told me, even if they restart her heart.. she would be brain dead. Nine years ago as I was driving home with all of my little girls possessions in my van, I was singing along to a Barbara Streisand song she and I used to sing together. Romans 8:26 says, Likewise the Spirit helps us in our weakness. Topical Loss Of A Child ESV / 858 helpful votes Helpful Not Helpful Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God; I will strengthen you, I will help you, I will uphold you with my righteous right hand. He was buried the day before Fathers Day. He crept into my 14 year old sons mind and waited for the right weak movement. Woke up that moment and realized it was just another dream. There are so many lessons that come with any form of loss and I love how youve assembled these seven into such beautiful fashion. I feel his spirit around me everyday, I miss his beautiful smile, i miss talking to him. My son took his life 3 years ago on the 30th of October. I still cry all the time have a hard time moving on. Her whole life in front of her. Even though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil, for you are with me; your rod and your staff, they comfort me. You have put into words the grief and emotions bereaved parents feel. He is the great Comforter. He was a special child. I would love to be a part of this group, and do what I can to help others, and hope to be helped as well. Jesus refers to death as asleep for those who believe in Him. But that was not to be either. I have been without him for 7 1/2 years, and I still dread the holidays, and his birthday on January 3rd. i now see what my friends were going through when they lost their children. Let not your hearts be troubled. Born Sept 21 1996 Died March 26 1998. But we do not want you to be uninformed, brothers, about those who are asleep, that you may not grieve as others do who have no hope. It is not either/or, its both/and. I will be driving down the road and out of the blue grief will strike and tears will come down my cheeks. Finally, he answered and showed me it was to help others. Jessi. Thank you for putting into words what we ALL feel. I really feel for those of you who lost your children as older kiddies or as adults. Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! It gives me hope that although I have not made it to the joy part of my loss and grief still after 6years that it does not mean that I will be this way forever and that is ok. 15 Quotes About Losing A Child And Powerful Prayers For Healing For the things that are seen are transient, but the things that are unseen are eternal. We, human cannot reach this state alone. She just couldnt let him go because she knew that he still loved her. I shall ransom them from the power of Sheol; I shall redeem them from Death. Please dont give up on God. My 18 year old son, Josh, died in a car accident in December 2008 and I struggled to find support from other bereaved parents leading to the founding of Bittersweet Parents, a closed group where every other member is also a bereaved parent. My girlfriend sent me this like. He became an alcoholic and died at age 54, in 1974. but is always there deep with in my heart, LOVE never dies. Love to you all x. I read self help books all day, try to find a place where I can be strong enough to cause change in a system that failed and took my son from me. We keep his picture on the wall with his brothers and sister. I lost my son David (I call/called him Bubbie!) We were 11 months apart in age and I loved him beyond belief. Ive read several of these, and am so thankful that so many of you know Jesus Christ as your Savior and Lord. Glorifying God in Unshakable Grief | Desiring God We all share a bond that no parent should ever have to deal with. I dont take my loved ones for granted now. If youd like an inside look into why the loss of a child is a grief that lasts a lifetime, here is what Ive learned in my seven years of trekking through the unimaginable. My son chose Paradise. Within that one week span, the doctors were at a lost and could provide no further treatment or ideas. If I could add just a tiny, small, painful comment I know that someday MAYBE i will learn to not blame God, but right now, I am angry, bitter, and emotional. He just turned 29 ten days before. We wrote on balloons and sent messages to him in heaven on October 21, 2015 which would have been his 39th birthday. At first I just wanted to die but I never thought of suicide. I too have lost a son, now 21 years ago, which seems like yesterday at times. I have two other little girls who I need to be strong for and believe me its not easy. But I will never forget him. Bonnie, your comment took my breath away. Its sad to say but time stops fpr no one,although it seems it stood still the day my son Daniel passed from this earth. He did what was right and what hw wanted to do along with work and school .It was a very bad day as we lost his girlfriend the same car accident (not his fault ) .But again we had no regrets as he had done many thing in his life that others hadnt experienced and never will we will see him again. I just cry all day and all nite. She is always my first thought when I wake and the last before I sleep .We have always shared her story with everyone and I love that so many people remember her. I dont know you but I wish I could take it away. I look forward to going to heaven so I can finally meet her and get to know her. Can a woman forget her nursing child, that she should have no compassion on the son of her womb? Thank you Lord Jesus Christ. I die inside every day without my son. he surely lived life to the fullest and no one can doubt that. He loved the Cardinals, taking in many games with his family and friends. Since that night myself, his brother, his sister, and friends have had encounters that are similar. Objectives: Using a meta-ethnographic approach, we systematically reviewed the literature around fathers' predeath and postdeath experiences of loss and grief. After eating, we got our fortune cookies and my daughter opened hers. All I know is that He is the friend that sticks closer than a brother. I believe, with the Unconditional Love of God, He would never turn his back on someone who took their own life. In 2003, I had a child, something I always said I would never do: have a child. you have just described how I have been feeling since the death of my daughter 21 days ago. As a mother who has lost two children, ( younger daughter and grand-daughter in a car crash, and my youngers son in the way in Iraq, I just have to tell you one thing I never thought about. Today (23 years after his death) I still think of him every day, and plan to for the rest of my life. I lost my 25 year old daughter Amy on February 20, 1983. I miss The Boy every day. I wanted to write something to everyone, to say you are not alone. If you talk to me I will tell you my sons story to help from this happening again. I already feel alone. This writing came at a good time since June 17 is right around the corner. Therefore we will not fear though the earth gives way, though the mountains be moved into the heart of the sea. I have an elder son who has been shattered with the loss of his soul mate, he is however providing absolute support to my late sons wife and child whilst being there for his own wife and 2 daughters. This has brought me great peace in my heart and it keeps her memory going.. When my son died, my ex and I had to make a decision to take him off life support. Just because it might make you uncomfortable, doesnt make him matter any less. Required fields are marked *. I dont want to say it gets easier but it does get more manageable as time goes on. The older Ive gotten, the more I have found that the circle of parents who have lost their children (especially young children) is actually a quite full circle. I know I will never get over this but how do I survive it? I am grateful for those that do understand. It is good that one should wait quietly for the salvation of the Lord. To grant to those who mourn in Zion to give them a beautiful headdress instead of ashes, the oil of gladness instead of mourning, the garment of praise instead of a faint spirit; that they may be called oaks of righteousness, the planting of the Lord, that he may be glorified. I am now able to comfort and care for others in their time of need. She fought an awful battle with bipolar disease for at least 10 years, tried meds, gave up on them when she gained weight. Get mad at God. Jaimie was a truck driver, I see a semi and think what would Jaimies life be like today? My pain never goes away. I have read every one of these stories and my heart goes out to everyone of you. During his 32 years on this Earth, he left a positive mark on so very many people. Children Of God: Lost And Found [Cinemax] HD. Something I did not know he did. I find it as a club that I would not wish anyone to be in but a club of moms who truly do understand, different circumstances but still know the grief and heartache. I love you my baby boy Stevie!!! My Mom brought a lot of joy to other people, but she had no joy for herself. What Does the Bible Say About Loss Of A Child? - OpenBible.info Thank you so much for sharing your words about your sweet daughter, Pamela. I lost my only daughter 6 weeks ago today on 5th April 2016, she was just 24 years old. Our oldest son Walter was 30 when died from a fall at work on April 19,2000. Look it up please. Ive been working for DCS of my state for the last year since graduation. That is one hope I was taught in church. I lost my so 7 1/2 years I would see my so in dreams and there would be 3s that would just show up..or on my birthday. I know that my husband and I try to be more caring as we live our lives, because we feel that John would want us to share our love that we have for him with others on this earth.
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